How To Say No And Stay Sober
If you really want to succeed in today’s time, you have to make sure you know how to say no. Saying no can do you a lot of favors especially drive motivation within and guide you to your true purpose.
Honestly, the truth is that nobody wants to hear a no. Everybody is out there to get to their true purpose in life. However, how many are they hurting along the way would perhaps be history for them.
The truth is:
Nobody waits for you essentially but rather, everyone is ‘trying to make an incision entry of themselves’. It’s not about YOU (for the other person) but everything is for You. Once you realize it, your belief will get strong and you’ll get some affirmation on your true purpose in life.
Everybody has goals. Everybody has aspirations but nobody wants to get disturbed while they are trying to attain what is written for them. Therefore, the importance of saying no to one to drive yourself to your highest purpose is the best way out in this over excessive life.
History Speaks For Itself
If you look at history, every artist, book writer, singer-songwriter or anyone else for that purpose, talks about ‘light’ or positivity or motivation perhaps. However, have you ever wondered where they go with this notion and what happens to them after all this motivation?
If you look at things deeply, you will realize that people are always looking for the truth and that’s where their motivation springs from. However, over time, everybody goes through ‘life’ and it might have taken the time to reach their true purpose.
So, the idea here is to understand all sides of the story and never to coincide with one’s specific efforts. Also, before someone gets to your purpose, you should get to their purpose
Also, you never know who’s who these days so it is better to avoid. And if someone’s trying to get too close to you, it means there is a big problem.
The Biggest Problem We Face Today
One of the biggest problems today is for one to say no. I say, there should be no more niceties because we’ve already been too humane for the world. There have been nice people and there have been bad people. The truth is that now, between nice and bad, there is a line which is called the ‘integrating line’. For humans who try to get to your true purpose, it is going to be called extinguishing light or a sling shot right through your brain. We all have this line within, which is our bare minimum.
Hence, the best way is that before they get to your true purpose, you better say no and if they don’t listen to your no, they better succumb to all that they wrote themselves for you through your eyes till their heart only. (That’s a tit-for-tat, the Ultimate principle of life).
The problem these days is that nobody gets the message. The issue arises when one starts to cross your line; the conflict starts which is the other person’s motive and that is where the war arises. Therefore, before this war, it is important to say no to avoid a greater mess through a bigger glory- the end of the one who starts the mess or ignites the fire.
Nafs: Gut: Eye
Also, remember, everyone is fighting a war, the war within one’s self. This includes a battle within, in an attempt to stay sane, against what we called your, “nafs” (in Islam: Nafs = your gut and the hold on your gut, which is a hold on your ownself).
“Until you learn how to confidently say NO to so many things, you shall always say YES to so many things. The real summary of a regretful life is a life that failed to balance YES and NO. Yes! A life that failed to recognize when to courageously say NO and when to confidently say YES!”
― Ernest Agyemang Yeboah
There have been so many books on how to say no and there is a need to emphasize for one to say no because these days, nobody knows how to respect a line.
They abuse you, they be with you, they mingle with you and they go back to their respective places, their shells, their comfort zone, where they plan, inch by inch, your demise, one by one and nor do they reveal, nor do they tell.
Honestly, nobody can cross a line with you which means your respect, your passions, your motivations, your aspirations, your dreams, and your life. The problem these days is that not only is a person being eyed these days but they are rather getting stripped off of their belongings which includes themselves. There, is, therefore, a need, to draw a line and say No to the other person politely before they get out of their purpose to get to your purpose, which would be your heart per se!
Getting In One’s Heart
Getting to one’s heart is getting to and in their system, and once you get in someone’s business, they start collapsing, just as an individual would, if their ‘Maksad’ is being crossed by another just for some personal gains, laughs,
A lot of people have talked about how to say no. In fact, it has been a motivational topic for many speakers. Additionally, books have been written on how to say no.
If we are talking about how to say no and stay sober (pun intended), here are some motivation that will guide you to believe the importance of saying no, putting the other person aside, giving them a message and so, they don’t intervene in your purpose, your heart, mind and soul.
Quotes on How To Stay No.
“Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious. You get to choose how you use it. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won’t accept.”
― Anna Taylor
“Sometimes “No” is the kindest word.” – (for the ones who understand)
― Vironika Tugaleva
“Tone is the hardest part of saying no.” – Tone matters!
― Jonathan Price, Put That in Writing
“When you say no to the wrong people, it opens up the space for the right people to come in.”
― Joe Calloway, Magnetic: The Art of Attracting Business
Looking For A Simple Formula? There’s None!
If you think about it, how to say no seems like a simple formula. It comes easy to the eyes and it comes easy on the face and it comes easy on the lips off one. However, the truth is, this advice is true for the good ones because the rest of the ones have already said no and are trying to succeed or portraying too. Though, the heart is still one and it’s all YOU that has gone through all of it. The story? It’s going to be a win-win always for the ones who have betrayed you. And then, the underlying meaning for you in this would be to learn from your surroundings and then learn how to say no.
By learning how to say no, you will get the following:
- A little bit of love
- Some perspective as to how you have to succeed this life whilst and between all that is going on around you
- Its never going to be easy though learning how to say no can definitely help you succumb to a certain things and then becoming afresh about your needs and then going for those needs one by one and Step-By-Step.
- You should learn how to say no and that will allow you to succeed in this life but things will always be taken one by one. and that is perspective for you.
Books on how to say no:
The art of saying no: Damon Zahariades
How to How To Say No: Without Feeling Guilty: Patti Breitman
The Power Of A Positive No: William Ury